Oct 12, 2016. The big event of your yes-I'm-aging years is the downsize. Since we already lived in a condo, I thought we were exempt from that agony. Since I'm well-organized and accustomed to living in tight quarters, I figured I was exempt from chaos. But no. Here we are, 84-year-old Jim and 67-year-old Susan, our brains reeling with the strategizing and practical problem-solving we thought we'd somehow graduated from. If you have downsizing in your future, you probably already know that it's about piles and lists, but here are three tips I didn't find on the internet.
Maybe you can't get off the dime about contacting a realtor, but you can start cleaning out closets and get rid of whatever it is you are hoarding in the garage. I realize that over the years I've become champion of squeezing more and more and more into storage spaces. This downsizing business isn't about super-organizing, it's about making stuff go away. Unless you're already too old to give a shit, this can't be done by anyone but you. Being thoughtful throughout this process is a key principle. Start today.
The thought of tackling a great big thing wears me out. So... baby steps. Today, I'll just sort through that box of crap. After lunch, I'll just make that phone call. Sometimes there is a survival advantage to NOT thinking about tomorrow. In my experience, big-picture thinking on a daily basis is a recipe for procrastination. TODAY is too sunny, too rainy, too humid, too overcast for grand strategy. Ambitious plans stall out. But it's hard to come up with excuses to avoid baby steps. Ask yourself, "What next?" Then break off a little piece of it and get it done. I find that baby steps have a way a rapidly accumulating and putting momentum on your side. Nelson Mandela said, "It always seems impossible... until it's done."
The older you get, the more wonderful things vie for your attention. That's why we forget what we went upstairs for. So when you take one of those tiny baby steps, don't stumble. Finish the stride. If you're cleaning out a closet, at least focus on ONE shelf until it's empty. Looking around and seeing everything half pulled apart is depressing as hell. Last week, I actually had to yell at Jim to keep his eyes forward on the shelves we were trying to pack in a systematic way. He kept grabbing stuff from the shelf to his right. No! Do. Not. Look. At. That. Shelf. (Sometimes yelling keeps my head from exploding, but that's not a practice I'm recommending.)
Maybe as the Boomer generation nears peak retirement, there will be a profession that combines the skills of a wedding planner with those of the hoarding interventionalist: the downsizing expert. You won't be able to afford one, but maybe they will make YouTube videos. Meanwhile, all we can do is toddle along with our baby steps, minding the path and learning from one another as we go.
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